We get a lot of requests from customers asking for more information on “P-Spot” stimulation. The “P-Spot” is the prostate—a little magical knob that is a short way up the male anus right behind the penis. It’s where a lot of magic happens…
The “P-Spot” is often referred to as the male equivalent of a woman’s G-Spot. For those of our customers who don’t have much experience with female G-Spots, when this is tickled, stroked, rubbed and tantalized correctly a woman will gush with pleasure. Many equate it to an out-of-body experience. Reams and reams of magazine print has been devoted to finding it and pleasuring it. There’s a reason this topic sells magazines.
And that’s a reason we are interested in the male version of it.
A few days ago another straight customer asked me for more information on prostate stimulation. He has been married for a long time and is happily married but wants to spice up his life. (He admitted that he's a little wilder than his partner. Lucky lady!)
They have discussed ‘pegging’. Pegging is where one partner straps on a dildo and fucks the other partner. We carry a version of this called the Extreme Hollow Leather Strap On (pictured below). The dildo is hollow so if you are male it will ‘extend’ your penis but it is firm enough that a woman can wear it and still give good pleasure to her partner.
I usually refer folks to Dick and Jane’s blog because they are one seriously cool and open straight couple and they blog about their sexual explorations in a refreshingly open way. (And they keep it simple; even I can understand!) Dick posted a great blog on this on 9 September 2012 entitled Demystifying the Pleasures of Prostate Play. I used Dick as a resource extensively. (For those of you who would like to read Dick’s blog in its entirety—and it’s well worth your time—here’s the link: http://www.dick-n-jane.com/2012/09/demystifying-pleasures-of-prostate-play.html)
A lot of guys immediately freeze up and cringe when anything approaches the back door. For this reason a great first step is using a prostate stimulator. It is much smaller (and therefore less intimidating) than a dildo or dong and is gently curved to more easily reach and stimulate the prostate. I frankly love it when my partner is using this on me and can writhe in pure ecstasy for hours but if you are uncomfortable giving up control of your asshole, by all means, take it and drive (but you ARE missing out on one of life’s greatest hidden pleasures!)
Why use it? Having your prostate manually stimulated gives you the feeling of being on the edge of orgasm. It sparks the endless “O”. Oh—but read on!
A lot of men (straight, gay and in between) feel shame and more than a little protective of their back door. Maybe if we could see it we would play with it as much as we do with our dicks! But no—there is this mysterious orifice behind us (lovingly placed between two beautiful mounds of flesh, the intersection of inner thighs, and at the end of perineum raphe starting at the ball sack). Seriously—this is a highly erogenous neighborhood! (The raphe is that lovely ridge that looks like a seam between your legs. It runs from ball sack to anus. Want to drive your man wild? Lightly stroke your finger, your tongue or feather along this ridge and watch him squirm!)
As erogenous as this territory is, you can step up the intensity by going INSIDE! (No, this is NOT a blog about how good sex starts in your head—er, BRAIN; however, that is true as well). Inside what some refer to as the ‘love canal’ exists a very magical button. When that button is pushed amazing sensations pulse and speed through your entire body. Pre-cum starts to ooze out of your urethra.
Just where is this magic button and how does it work?
In the picture above you will notice that a hand has been drawn in to show exactly where to find the magic button—all it needs is a “Press Here” sign!
The reality is that we are amazingly designed in such a way that our hands END where our major erogenous zones start—penis, vagina, rectum. Was that great design or what?! (Not to discount the other erogenous zones—they are as numerous as the number of people reading this blog.) Therefore, if you are limber enough you can reach a finger in and massage the Male G-spot yourself. (If not, we’ve got plenty of toys to help.)
This is easy to do. For your first time, try it in the shower. This works well because it’s relatively private, your body gets warm and relaxed and you have plenty of soap with which to lubricate yourself. (Also, if you are a clean freak like me, you will know your rectum is clean because you are soaping it up! Yeah, we know what comes out of there...)
Bend slightly at the knees and reach either around your back or down and between your legs. Use one hand to brace yourself against the shower wall as you lean forward. With the other, reach in. I find that my longest finger (interestingly enough, the ‘fuck you!’ finger) works best. If you are reaching between your legs, this works well because your prostate is up and beneath your dick. You can easily reach this if you curl your finger back towards your wrist after you insert it into your rectum. (Remember that hand that is bracing you against the shower wall? Trust us; it won’t be on the wall for long. Very soon you will be stroking your dick and enjoying the amazing sensations coming from your core.)
When you find that knob, wiggle your finger back and forth slightly. What feels good to you? Make sure you attempt to relax your rectum as much as possible or you will be fighting yourself. An effective method to do this (beyond enjoying the hot shower) is to push out on your rectum as though you were about to have a bowel movement. When you find the spots on your prostate that feel good, continue to massage them gently.
But what exactly does the Prostate do? Dick says it best (quoted from his blog mentioned above): "The prostate gland is both a manufacturer and warehouse built into one; it is responsible for making the fluid portion of men's ejaculate, and it works 24/7 to keep a spongy storage reservoir filled and ready for action. It is a self-filling bag of liquid potential. Encircling the prostate is a fibrous sheath of smooth muscle, you may already see where this is leading. As he huffs and pants working himself very close to climax, this smooth muscle sheath contracts around the sponge-like prostate giving it a squeeze that expels contents of the gland into the urethra where it helps mobilize an army. The rest of the orgasm needs no explanation... though it might need some Kleenex."
When you press this magical button, the prostate sends a message to the brain to let you know that you are on the edge of an orgasm. While this in itself may not cause pleasure, this sensation is hooked into the whole experience and body ritual of cumming—you feel like you are on the edge or orgasm—so your body interprets it as pleasure and we learn to love this feeling. Therefore when you press the prostate it feels like you are having an orgasm for as long you continue to rub it.
You can use your finger, the G-spot tool mentioned above, a butt plug, dildo, vibrator or a handy dick—what you use is up to you. Dick closes his blog by saying:
“If you have a partner in your life who is curious, trusting, and willing to playfully explore then you both could have a lot of fun. For you single guys... pick up a toy made for the job, even those of us married with willing partners have great success on our own sometimes.”
Life is short! Reach out and grab whatever brings you greater pleasure.
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Searching for just the right tool to tickle your prostate?
If, after all of this, you aren't afraid of exploring your prostate check out these products that make it easy to jump start the endless “O”:
Basix Rubber Works G-Spot: It is a small curved dong that is designed to massage your prostate. If you are comfortable with letting go (and that helps to relax you for even greater pleasure), it's great for your partner to 'drive' this toy.
Beginner’s Butt Plug: Okay, for many the name is a turn-off—why do you want to plug your butt?! But this slim dildo is perfect for the first-timer. 100% phthalates and latex-free, environmentally safe and hypoallergenic.
Colt Anal Trainer Kit: Interested in exploring your P-spot--but not quite sure where to start? The Colt Anal Trainer Kit contains three butt plugs of varying sizes to build up to bigger, better anal play.
Titanmen Trainer Tool #1: Looking for the perfect Anal Tool that is designed to fit a man just right? The TitanMen Training Tool #1 is designed with a curve to hit your prostate every time. And it’s ‘entry-level-sized’!
Titanmen Training Tool #5: Need a bit more than the Trainer Tool #1 can provide? Enjoy this sleek design that features a rounded tip & prostate-pleasing curve, measuring 5.2” long with a diameter of 2”
Bendable Prostate Massager: We saw this and knew we HAD to have it! POWER UP! Seven amazing functions make this a world of prostate possibility and the bendable dual motor gives you the pleasure you seek for complete ecstasy. It bends and holds any position so you can find the perfect angle to hit your prostate. Ecstasy…
WHERE TO FIND IT:
- 7.5” Dong with Suction Cup: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/7-5-dong-with-suction-cup
- Basix Rubber Works G-Spot: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/basix-rubber-works-g-spot
- Beginner’s Butt Plug: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/beginners-butt-plug
- Bendable Prostate Massager: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/bendable-prostate-massager
- Colt Anal Trainer Kit: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/colt-anal-trainer-kit
- Extreme Hollow Leather Strap On: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/extreme-hollow-leather-strap-on
- P Spot Massager: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/p-spot-massager
- Titanmen Trainer Tool #1: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/titanmen-trainer-tool-1
- Titanmen Training Tool #5: http://gearessentials.com/collections/toys/products/titanmen-training-tool-5
(Photos by manufacturer or re-blogged from Tumblr.)