The Freedom of BDSM

 

Are you feeling bound up and inhibited? Unable to express your sexual desires or fantasies? This is going to sound odd, but sometimes you can only truly experience the freedom to explore your sexual desires when you are actually physically tied up.

That seems so counter-intuitive. Why is this the case? There is an interesting logic to this:  when you are tied up you cannot object to your partner or resist what is happening. You have to let go. You have to release everything and just trust. Amazing things can happen when you're tied up. Your partners can do whatever they want to you. You are left in a position where you can only do what they allow you to do.

(Small print:  Find a partner you trust implicitly. It is also recommended that you have a "Safe word." This is a word that when used means that all play comes to an end and you are released. You may never need to use it or you may need to test to guarantee that you can trust your partner.)

Your inhibitions disappear when you're tied up. It seems that they're tied up too. 

So what exactly does BDSM mean? It is really an overlapping definition including bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism.

 

 
The Freedom of BDSM - in his Cockring

 

One of the men who publicized sadomasochism was the Marquis de Sade, a French aristocrat who lived from 1740 to 1814. He believed that the highest form of sexual activity was pain, not pleasure. Interestingly, the Catholic Church also provides examples of sadomasochism. The flagellants, a twelfth century movement, encouraged followers to beat themselves until they bled (a contemporary example of this is Paul Bettany playing Silas in the film The Da Vinci Code).

The other man who exposed sadomasochism to the world at large was Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. He was an Austrian author who lived in the nineteenth century. He described the pleasure he gained from being whipped by women (preferably older and swathed in furs) in his novels. He enjoyed and craved the pain and humiliation. Masochism can simply be the desire to give up control, worship an authority figure or experience humiliation. Many of our idols are tough, authority figures:  dominant archetypes in black leather, cops, military personnel, super heroes, doctors or teachers. For some this is an opportunity to role play, escape from the daily grind and get lost in erotic fantasy.

Many dominatrices describe high-powered lawyers and executives who come to them to be humiliated. For many, this is an opportunity to give up the demands on them to make decisions and have to always be on their game. They are allowed to just sit back, be told what to do and enjoy. It is an opportunity to let go in a safe place.

 

The Freedom of BDSM - Chained & cockringed; exploring fantasy & pleasure

 

When you are restrained you quickly realize that there is no use in wasting time worrying. In bondage you are now free to relax and live in the moment. Enjoy the sensations. Close your eyes and feel your hardening dick. Feel the power; feel the surrender.

Enjoy the freedom of BDSM. 

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(Photos re-blogged from Tumblr.)

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